Recently a friend shared this quote from Abraham Lincoln: “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”
I like that quote.
For many years it was my mantra.
“I don’t like (fill in the blank)…therefore, I must get to know it (or him) better.”
Our usual mode of operation is to think “I don’t like that person. I should get far far away from her!”
Yet what do we learn when we move closer?
Usually we discover common bonds. We discover that what we don’t like about that man is what we don’t like about ourselves. We discover that, perhaps, we’re not as separate as we might think.
In every despicable person or situation, a pearl so often shines. Shall we take the time to look for it? Or shall we, unlike Honest Abe, move toward rejecting, pushing away, because it hurts too darn much to spend the time to find common ground, places where we agree?
Yes, dear friend, there are times to move away. There are times to make a stand not to be hurt, injured, thrust in the fire.
Yet, more times than not, our enemy contains our friend. It’s just a matter of digging deep enough to find common ground.
How many of you have discovered this?
(Thanks for the inspiration, dear Amy!)