Is home where the heart is?

Keely, Tianna, me and Mom

Keeley, Tianna, me and Mom

Where, my dear reader, is your home?  Is it the place where your heart says “yes”?  Is it your childhood home?  Is it the house where you now live?

I am a lucky sixty year old woman to call two places my home.

  1. Our Little House in the Big Woods, in Aura, Michigan, in our dear Upper Peninsula.  We’ve made our little house our “home of the heart” for about 35 years.
  2. My childhood home in Yale, Michigan, where my 85-year-old mama still resides.  As many of you know, I am visiting her downstate this week. How many people can still visit their childhood home at age sixty, I ask you sincerely?
Mom doing her puzzles on the iPad in the sun room

Mom doing her puzzles on her iPad in the sun room

Yesterday, upon arriving at my childhood home, I was surprised to see my niece Keely!  (Who had just been surprised to learn that Aunt Kathy was on her way.)

We decided to drive to the Dorsey House for lunch.  Keeley surprised us by inviting her sister, Tianna, to join us.

What a day of surprises!

Today, I am fulfilling the photo challenge for the month of April. Today’s prompt is “Inspiring Quote.”

You do know what quote I’m choosing, don’t you?

Home is where the heart is.

(I suspect Home could be anywhere, then, if our hearts are wide open. What do you think?)

Love, Aunt Kathy who is going to make roasted cauliflower for her and Mom for dinner.  (We ate lunch TODAY at the Olive Garden in Port Huron.)





About Kathy

I live in the middle of the woods in Michigan's Upper Peninsula. Next to Lake Superior's cold shores. I love to blog.
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32 Responses to Is home where the heart is?

  1. Jillian says:

    I say we are flying ‘home’ no matter whether we are flying to Michigan, Auckland or Sydney.. which is quite confusing for everyone. But if we are flying to Michigan, I usually end up clarifying that I’m going ‘home home’ so I guess that’s my true home. 😆 Speaking of which, we are flying ‘home home’ for Christmas. Any chance you guys will be downstate.

    • Kathy says:

      Nanny and I loved reading your comment yesterday–she’s not active on social media (as you know) but she loves reading everything. Especially what you kids have to say. Guess you and I have the same “home home”! Man, it would be so lovely to see you–and the new little one–at Christmas time. So fantastic. It is hard for us to travel in the winter between snowstorms, but your visit will be added incentive!

  2. Barb says:

    Home is where your heart is glad. You’re so lucky to have your Mom still living in your childhood home. What great memories you both must have! Keep having fun, Kathy.

    • Kathy says:

      Barb, thank you so much for reading and commenting and staying connected, my friend from Colorado. We do have soooo many memories here in this house. It’s not the same now that my dad is gone, but we’re making new memories all the time…

  3. Carol says:

    How neat to still have your childhood home – and your kids could say the same, couldn’t they? My home has been my home for nearly 20 years now – some kind of record for me, I think. My home could also be wherever my kids are – in June, they will both be in the U.S., on this western side of the country!

    • Kathy says:

      Yes, Carol, such a good point. The kids LOVE that their childhood is still there–and I’m betting they can’t yet imagine that someday it could be otherwise. How interesting to ponder that you’ve been in your home for 20 years. AND that your kids will be around in June! I am hoping to take a trip to Vancouver, BC with my daughter in June. Hoping that will happen…

  4. What a beautiful sunroom! Your Mom looks so comfortable there. How lucky, to have two places to call home. I still think of Lapeer as home (as well as Beaver Island, of course), but no longer have a specific place there, that feels like home.

    • Kathy says:

      Cindy, I can imagine you still do think of Lapeer as home. I think of you as a fellow Thumb-person, but do you Lapeer folks think of yourself at being from the Thumb? I also sometimes try to imagine if I will ever return too much to Yale in future years. And that would be a sad thing.

      • Yes, we think of Lapeer as “thumb area.” I actually point to the fleshy part of my palm just beside the base of my thumb. Once my sister moved out of the house she’d lived in for forty years, and that felt like a second home to me, and my brother and his family moved into the house I grew up in after Mom died, I feel kind of “homeless” in Lapeer. Of course, I am still welcome in my brother’s home, or my sister’s new home, or at any of my other sisters homes, if it came to that…but I need time to adjust to the idea.

  5. cvarsalona says:

    Nice meeting you. Two homes where the heart can be found-Wonderful!

  6. Val says:

    It’s lovely to see you with your family, and your mom in her sun room.
    For me, home is memories of places and people loved and passed (and some still alive). x

    • Kathy says:

      Thank you, Val. It’s good to be with these family members. I like how home can be made of loving memories, as well. By the way, the sun room is a relatively new addition. It used to be a patio. Mom and Dad had it built several years ago. Mom said she could never have imagined how much joy it would bring.

  7. Stacy says:

    I’ve been asking myself this question lately, Kathy. I’ve felt like a rudderless ship with no port to call home for many years now. I always wanted to live in the same house for decades, but my life hasn’t worked out that way. Maybe one day I’ll have a “place” to call home. You are a very fortunate woman to have two homes.

    • Kathy says:

      Stacy, would you consider the house where you lived before the hurricane to be more of a “home”, or not really? I told my mom about you this morning. Always thrilled to see you when you pop up!

      • Stacy says:

        Yes, the home where we lived before Katrina (not the house we lived in when the storm hit) is the closest place to home I’ve ever felt. I have moved around my whole life so have never really established roots. As I liken myself to a deep-rooted tree who has been uprooted time and again, you can see why I am never very comfortable. I am not a wanderer, yet I have always wandered.

  8. dawnkinster says:

    Love that sunroom, and love that you can still go visit your mom at your childhood home! I guess we have two homes too. One in lower Michigan and another in Alabama. We’re lucky.

    • Kathy says:

      Dawn, you are very lucky indeed. It looks like you have enjoyed your time in Alabama, and that you’ll be moving on toward your Michigan home soon. I must tell you it snowed here last night. At least up in the Thumb. First it rained and thundered. Quite exciting! Safe travels…

  9. I think, as you, that one can have their heart in two places. Your mom has a very lovely home and it surely looks enticing as a place that holds many dear memories for you. Your mom really looks great and you are blessed to have her.

    My childhood home is in the country about 24 miles from town. I bought my part from my sis after our parents died and then I sold it about 18 or more years ago.

    My heart is in my home where I have lived since 1963. I love my home and am something of recluse but I do get out and luckily for me, I can drive in traffic and keep up with traffic. I got a speeding ticket two years ago when I was driving my son to speech therapy. He needed speech therapy after he wrecked his ATV.

    My friends are all younger than I. Some are in their sixties and one is in early 70’s. They never hesitate to ride with me so I suppose that is a good thing. I just don’t drive I-35 anymore due to afib and the stress of that very busy NAFTA route. Anyhow I strayed again as I am prone to do but somehow your reference to age made me do it.” 🙂 I know that emojis are not considered appropriate in writing but…

    • Kathy says:

      Yvonne, I enjoyed reading your comment this morning. Had to grin–so sorry–about your speeding ticket. You’ve got a “lead foot” as they say around here! It’s good that you have friends to hang out with, and that you have a home filled with heart. It’s also interesting that you consider yourself a recluse. I am both an introvert and an extrovert. Need a lot of quiet time alone–and then love being around people. P.S. I am glad you are an emoji rule breaker. Me too! 😉

  10. Robin says:

    It’s a wonderful quote, and I agree with you that home could be anywhere if our hearts are open to it. I’ve certainly had to remind myself of that after each move my husband and I have made over the years. I think this move to the Eastern Shore was number 14 or thereabouts.

    I think it must be a beautiful thing to be able to return to your childhood home from time to time. So glad you arrived safely and are enjoying time with your mama. 🙂

    • Kathy says:

      Fourteen moves, my goodness! You must be an expert at packing and moving. If we ever move, I’m going to consult you. Is part of your heart left in the Bogs? Or have you steadily fallen in love with your new landscape? I remember how challenged you were in the beginning.

      • Robin says:

        lol! Yes, I think I’ve become an expert at it over time.

        A huge piece of my heart is still in the Bogs. While there are things I love about the Eastern Shore, it still doesn’t feel more than temporary to me. I find that kind of odd because I’m originally from the east coast and always thought I’d feel at home if I moved back this way. But there was something about the Bogs that always felt more like home to me than any other place I’ve lived. My sons, their wives, and my grandchildren are all in the Bogs, too, so that plays a role. Our plans to eventually move back that way also contribute to the temporary feeling.

  11. Lori says:

    When I lived in Florida, every time I visited home (where I grew up), it felt right. In Florida, my house felt like home, but living in that area I never quite felt like I fit there. I guess my heart wasn’t home. When I used to visit from Florida, my mom lived a few blocks away from the house where I grew up, so when I visited, I was back where my heart was in my old neighborhood. Where I live now is about 20 miles from my childhood house. Still the same suburban area though. My heart is definitely home.

    I take it your mom still lives in the house where you grew up? I love that sun room. Wish I had one of those. Sounds like a lovely visit. So glad you took that spontaneous trip for yourself. How many hours does it take to drive?

    • Kathy says:

      Lori, I remember that you never felt like you truly fit in down in Florida. It was home, but it wasn’t home. How wonderful that you can be living in the same suburban area where you grew up. Is it one of the neighborhoods north of Chicago? I remember driving through some of those.

      Yes, this is where I grew up. We moved in when I was five years old. The sun room is a new addition. My mom and dad had it built several years ago. My mom said she never imagined it would bring so much joy.

      As for the trip down from the U.P., it takes about 9.5 hours if you drive straight through. (Which we rarely do.) More like 11 hours with stops. Or two days if you only decide to leave at 3 p.m. on an Easter Sunday!

      • Lori says:

        Kathy, we live northwest of Chicago. When growing up here, the suburb where I live now was considered the farthest west anyone would venture to go out of the city. All these years later, people have moved even farther west.

        Your trip down from the U.P. is quite long to drive to do all in one day on your own. I admire that you do it on your own.

  12. John Hommer says:

    I now live in Colorado, but I sure miss Skanee. Very nice article and pics! I love that sun room.

    • Kathy says:

      John, it’s so nice that you commented here. I remember you from when you were about five or six years old, trick-or-treating at our house on Roland Lake. Glad your mom was able to visit you this past year. Thank you so much for reading!

  13. JoAnn Mleko says:

    Kathy I love this post and your reference to Susannah Conway. I did her April Love 2016. That one was writing love letters to yourself. I’m not really into photography so I try to journal when she does picture ones. Two classes I’ve done with her are Daily Guidance and Sacred Alone. Loved both of them. the first was a gift from my daughter.

    • Kathy says:

      JoAnn, I was thrilled to read your comment on my way back home last weekend. Sorry for not responding sooner! I honestly did not know who Susannah Conway was until you mentioned her. Did not realize she did these regularly. Very cool that you have participated in her classes and journaling. I have loved to journal over the years. By the way, hope you are having a wonderful birthday! And thank you for reading and commenting.

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