Make new friends but keep the old



Can everyone sing the old song, “Make new friends,

but keep the old,

one is silver,

and the other’s gold“?

Delicious Vietnamese lunch

Delicious Vietnamese lunch

I was fortunate enough to meet a *relatively* new friend while visiting with my family downstate last week.  Nicole is an Internet buddy.  We met at least five years ago (so she says) on, a now-defunct spiritual website, which has  incarnated to  She also has a WordPress blog called Kumon of Hamilton.

We graduated from commenting on each other’s blogs to emailing to telephoning to Skyping as the years passed.  Because we’d Skyped and seen each other via a web-cam it really didn’t seem like much difference when we each drove 1-2 hours to meet halfway in London, Ontario, for lunch last Tuesday.

In fact it seemed like we were already old friends–starting up the conversation as if we were buddies from long long ago.

Nicole enjoys a banana split

Nicole enjoys a banana split

Nicole is such a sweet, intelligent, thoughtful person.  She told interesting family stories that kept me riveted and intrigued.

She proved–once again–that an Internet friendship can prove to be just as “real” and valuable and interesting as a friendship initially formed on the physical streets of our hometowns.

I enjoy some kind of coffee dessert

I enjoy some kind of coffee dessert

A few days later, my old friend, Christie, came visiting at my parent’s house in Yale.  (I use the term “old” only in reference to our many, many years of friendship.  Neither Christie or I are certainly old!!)  We probably walked to kindergarten together, a fact which Christie would surely remember, because she remembers everything about our childhood. (Your blogger needs her childhood friends because she can hardly remember anything…)

I do remember walking with her regularly to junior high.  We trudged over the Mill Creek Bridge together and followed the sidewalk under the chestnut tree on Main Street toward the old school.

We remained friends in high school, and guess what?  Christie was in our wedding and I could prove it to you if you looked through our wedding album.  (I sort of remember our wedding.  Almost.)

She is a lovely person with an easy laugh and down-to-earth personality. When our daughter went to Michigan State University, guess who watched after her and sent little gifts during exam time?  You’ve got it.  Christie.

I am so glad we’re still friends all these years later.

My childhood friend, Christie

My childhood friend, Christie

Seriously, though, I feel very grateful to have met with two such wonderful women during the past week.  They’re both silver and gold as far as I’m concerned!

Thank you, Nicole and Christie, for your visits.  I really appreciate both of you!

Have you met any Internet friends recently?  Or seen any old buddies from childhood?

About Kathy

I live in the middle of the woods in Michigan's Upper Peninsula. Next to Lake Superior's cold shores. I love to blog.
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33 Responses to Make new friends but keep the old

  1. Well goodness, gracious – I know Nicole from the original Gaia platform, too (actually, from way back when it was Zaadz).

    I thoroughly enjoy my internet friendships. Let’s see now, there’s you, Sandi W., Terrill W., Barbara R., Barbara K., Jeff S. — the list goes on…

    And to have shared face-time with a friend from childhood, well that’s just plain wonderful!

  2. Heather says:

    Meeting internet friends is one of the coolest things you can do, I promise 🙂
    Also dessert. That looks cool.
    I love that you cannot remember anything, and that you blissfully accept it and choose to laugh about it. I generally have a pretty good memory, but there are certain things that I just cannot hang onto, and Tony and I giggle about it.
    Cheers to you and all your internet meet-ups!

  3. pearlz says:

    Lovely story! And great to meet two of your friends.

  4. Pamela says:

    I’m singing the song as I type this. I remember that song from Girl Scouts, but still sing it to remember things (like the gold key goes to the house, the silver key works the office – see? the song helps me remember that!). Sad, but true, our memories aren’t quite as strong as they used to be, even regarding house and office keys.

    I feel like I’ve become ‘friends’ with many really neat people (like you) through blogging, even though I’ll probably never meet these people face to face. In this new internet world, friendships expand from the physical to the ‘nether’world. I’ve also reconnected with high school buddies I haven’t seen in a long long (long) time via Facebook, which is fun.

    Mostly, I’m very jealous of those desserts – yum yum yummy! 🙂

  5. So sweet! And those desserts and dessert drinks look amazing.

  6. How nice to meet old friends! I’m missing my old compatriots very much lately. I’m too busy, many live too far away, yet there are things I feel only dear friends will understand…

  7. lisaspiral says:

    That certainly looks like some coffee drink! How fabulous to have both old and new friends to visit. Taking time out for friends is important, and more so I think as I get “older”.

  8. It was awesome meeting you this time, Kathy, though as you say it didn’t feel like a first meeting. After 5 years meeting in so many other ways this was just a natural segue in an ongoing golden friendship. Much love

  9. Lori D says:

    How lovely. Just love it when we can meet with our girlfriends. They are the heart of our lives. Happy for you.

  10. Christie says:

    Kathy, feeling is mutual it was wonderful to see you as well. Can’t wait until your next trip downstate so we can hash out of few more stories of years past. By the way I don’t think we walked to Kindergarden together since I lived “out of town”, I went in the morning, and you in the afternoon since you lived “in town”, yet our houses were only a few short blocks away. The walk to school together probably began a few years later when I got tired of riding the bus. I used to ride the bus to school and walk home as I could get home quicker than the bus could get me there. Eventually I gave up the bus all together thus our walks to school began.

  11. Brenda Hardie says:

    It’s a wonderful gift to meet online friends and another precious gift to visit with childhood friends ♥ I’m so glad you had such a good time visiting with them. Makes me think of the song “It’s a Small World After All” 🙂 Friends all over make the world feel like home 🙂 ♥

  12. Dawn says:

    Funny you should bring this up now. Tomorrow night I’m having dinner with two college roommates…we all went to MSU back in the 70’s. We see each other every few years. Can’t wait! 🙂

  13. You’re my internet/blog friend Kathy! I remember that song so very well from Girl Scouts and it is a fine song, isn’t it? Really great that you got to visiit with these friends. Loved hearing about it!

  14. Kathy says:

    Nicole was on my freshly pressed that led me here… Beautiful Blog Kathy on friendship. For me too when I’ve met my on-line friends it is as if we already know each other. Proud to know you all.

  15. penpusherpen says:

    lovely to meet your friend, Kathy… and it’s uplifting when an encounter online becomes that much more… , adds spice to life. . which brings me to that Banana Split.. Wow!! ….and I love coffee, so that dessert looks to die for.. . With my mouth watering I shall depart… (and have my second coffee of the morning, ) xPenx

  16. Robin says:

    Now that I think about it, it’s been a long time since I’ve met any internet friends (who, I agree with you, are just as real and valuable as any other friends). I’m hoping to meet you someday. 🙂 I did have the pleasure of spending time with old friends this past weekend (not old as in, well, you know… lol!!). My tummy is growling with hunger after looking at the food in this post. I suppose the means I should go have some breakfast. 😀

  17. Both visits looked so enjoyable! I have yet to meet face-to-face (or even SKYPE) with any of my blogger buddies, although I dearly want to meet them. I do have some exceptional friends. One I have known nearly all my life, others I met in elementary school and one (same name as you) who I met through volunteering at our children’s elementary school. It doesn’t seem to matter how long you know someone. There are just some people with whom you can immediately connect. It’s great to have friends that are both silver and gold! 🙂

  18. Sounds like a great week. The food looks scrumptious!

  19. Such a nice post Kathy. Loved reading about your silver and gold friends. Life is so much better with good friends, no matter the distance. It really is odd how we connect with some bloggers. There is something special that causes up to be drawn to folks that we have never met in person. I’ve tried to figure it out but I can’t put it all together. 🙂

  20. dorannrule says:

    I have only met one of my internet/blogging friends in person and it was a truly wonderful experience. I can’t wait to see her and her husband again. How lucky we are to have the old old kinds of friends from childhood and these relatively new friendships that grow and thrive out of common interests. Kathy, your silver and gold analogy is wonderful and so is this post.

  21. bearyweather says:

    Looks like a great time … isn’t the internet great!
    Who would have thought life would be like this just 12 years ago?

  22. I hang out with a group of local bloggers–we go out, have gatherings and take classes together. Blogging is great!

  23. Kathy says:

    Thank you all for your comments! It was so nice to meet with these two friends, both silver and gold. 🙂

  24. Stacy says:

    “Silver and gold – how can you measure its worth? Just by the pleasure it brings here on earth.” (From the Rudolph claymation….remember that?) ❤

  25. I almost got to meet a blogging friend–she practically drove by my house to go visit another blogging friend–I almost cried–oh that was you! (lol)

  26. debyemm says:

    I had meant to get over here, when I saw the notification; but the day passed . . . and now, it is the occasion of Nicole’s birthday, and that has brought me back here, thanks to a link at FB on that wonderful photo you took. What a lunch you two had !! Having talked to Nicole by phone myself, I can easily understand how easy it is to feel so very familiar with her – as though one has always known her for eternity. How lucky for both of you !! My family is thinking of a boundary waters trip, maybe this fall, just before the season ends. Maybe if I am lucky, I’ll be able to meet you, if we come close enough. I almost got to meet Laurie Buchanan a couple of years ago; but the conditions fell through, and it just didn’t happen that time. My “internet” friends are very real – I know that. In fact, I think of the whole Zaadz/Gaian tribe as my virtual family – no less family, than the one I was born into.

  27. elxroflife says:

    Wow Kathy! So excited to see you and Nicole finally met, and that you are sharing it in this way! As you know we came close to meet each other two years ago when you were visiting your daughter in Queens, NY. I would have made even more of an effort if I hadn’t been hobbling around on crutches. Anyway, lunch did look scrumptious too. Was that a curry? I love Vietnamese! Nicole’s banana split reminds me of one I shared in Ithaca NY (not too far from London, Ontario). I shared mine this weekend, June 2nd, with my youngest one, Benji (6, 7 next month!). It included a hemp/buckwheat waffle and walnuts. I don’t know what I enjoyed more, watching Benji beam as we both went to town on our treat, or the fusion of flavors, texture, coolness and warmth. Or the sweet sound of his voice during our brief one-on-one before we join the rest of our gang. Or watching him run afterwards, his curls a’dancing, on the boost of energy the whole thing provided for him. I called him Benergy, and could feel him smile as he kept running.

    And being able to stay in touch with childhood friends like you have is a kind of sweetness that only gets better, especially when they take the time to connect with your kids!

    Where are you now, wandering woman wordpress friend and fellow Gaian? Come to think of it, Diving Deeper friend too! Thanks again for sharing!

  28. I am certainly having an awesome birthday!

  29. Meeting friends, from childhood or newer ones, is probably one of the nicest things in life. I love how you shared your happy reunions with your friends. Recently I met a friend I have known on flickr, a wonderful meeting around a delicious meal too. Soon I will meet my long time friend, Rosemarie; we both started working together in the same place years ago. Decades and many events later we are still close and delighted to meet whenever we can. Thanks for reminding us how precious friends are.

  30. sybil says:

    As you well know, a couple of my bestest chums here in Eastern Passage were delivered to me c/o the Blog-o-sphere. I’ve also been visited by my childhood chum, Betty and my “identical twin cousin” Carol. Friends are very precious things — both the new ones and the old ‘n golden ones.

  31. Reggie says:

    I have not yet met any of my blog friends, but I hope I do, Kathy!

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